A Shift in Emotions Due to Grief
Have you noticed yourself acting differently since your loss? Much differently than you normally would, especially while at work. Like transitioning from being an outgoing coworker to becoming quiet and distant. Or going from being the quiet coworker to the employee whose…
not holding their tongue
speaking out more bluntly
and not giving a damn what the “higher-ups” have to say or think about it
Have you noticed that you’ve become more irritable, argumentative, defensive, withdrawn, reclusive, joyless, or less productive? Have you noticed yourself having moments at work where you absolutely lose it? Whether that be you crying, yelling, or simply acting in a way that others may consider as someone having a breakdown.
If you’ve experienced any of what I’ve mentioned then I empathize with you. You haven’t been feeling or acting like yourself lately and that’s totally understandable. You’ve experienced a great deal of grief. How could anyone expect you to show up as your usual self? Especially while dealing with all of these emotions you’re experiencing due to your loss.
Weeks, months, maybe even years go by, and you still find yourself having emotional breakdowns. Way more emotional breakdowns than you’d like to be having. You start to feel powerless, embarrassed, and anxious about having another breakdown. You beat yourself up for not being able to stop the emotional breakdowns from happening. You want to put an end to the impulsive crying, weeping, and sobbing. You want to get to the point where you don’t experience any more emotional breakdowns, especially while you’re at work.
First of all, if you have experienced an emotional breakdown at work, home, in public, or wherever, grant yourself some grace and self compassion. You’re only human. A human who’s in a whole lot of emotional pain due to the loss they’ve experienced. You should be allowed to have a breakdown. As a matter of fact, you should be allowed to have as many “breakdowns” as you need to process your grief. Maybe the breakdowns are actually your suppressed emotions having a “breakthrough”. Maybe those feelings you’ve kept bottled up are breaking free, hoping that by being released, you will finally experience some relief. I imagine it doesn’t feel that way though. I imagine it just feels like uncontrollable pain being released through tears, yelling, and so many other things.
Either way it goes, you don’t deserve to feel judged, by others or yourself, for expressing your pain the way you do. Just so long as you are trying your absolute best to express it in a way which doesn’t put you or someone else’s safety at risk. But, at the same time, I get that most people, including you, probably don’t want to experience uncontrollable “breakdowns” at all.
With support from an online grief counselor, you can work towards getting a better understanding of why you’re having such frequent emotional breakdowns. We already know your grieving and maybe that’s the one and only reason you feel the way you do. However, there could be more to it than that. You could also be dealing with some underlying…
Anxiety
Trauma
Depression
Or other mental health issue(s)
Whatever the case may be, you deserve some support. By working with an online grief counselor in Florida, such as myself, you will receive the support you deserve. Not only that, we will work together in efforts to figure out the root cause(s) of your emotional breakdowns. And on our journey to figuring things out, you will also learn coping skills, self-care practices, as well as problem solving strategies to further cope with your grief.
So if you’re…
an adult experiencing grief
living in the state of Florida, USA
whether that be…
Ft Lauderdale
Miami
West Palm Beach
Broward County
or somewhere else
are interested in receiving online therapy
and would like to work with a black male therapist who specializes in grief therapy
… then feel free to get in contact with me to schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation.
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